Because it’s much easier to look at someone “up there” and envy what they’ve got than it is to ask the tougher questions:
What do they have that I wish I had?
What do I admire about them? What are they modelling for me?
What have they done to get where they are today?
How does this relate to my own values?
When we reflect on these questions, we shift immediately out of comparison mode (that whole comparing-our-insides-to-their-outsides) and turn inwards, to face the heart of the matter: our own desires and fears.